“Failures are only failures until we learn from them because once we learn from them they become lessons.”
It’s almost impossible to go through your school education without experiencing some kind of failure. Admit it, no matter however brilliant you may be, there is always this one time when you have scored exceptionally low and may be multiple times even! And this happens with everyone believe me. We are throughout our school life bombarded with multiple instances when we understand that failure is in fact not too bad- maybe when your parents console you or you are trying to gather quotes for that speech on motivation. Still, psychologists have come up with the fact that the major reason of depression amongst student is the ‘fear of failure’. It is also a major reason that holds students back from realizing their full potential and achieving their goals. But you might say failures are difficult to digest and they leave you bitter, miserable and depressed. Then why must we not be afraid of it? Well then here’s why.
Failure according to the dictionary means lack of success, that means we give no importance to learning, growth, experience and struggle. Failure is a matter of perspective, you might think that failure is the opposite of success, that less marks in one test can make you unsuccessful in the subject, then you might consider how Buckminister Fuller, the renowned American inventor and The father of American landscape looked at it when he said, “Whatever humans have learned had to be learned as a consequence of only trial and error experience. Humans have learned only through mistakes. So then how to become such positive? Here’s how.
One of the biggest flaws a student makes is when he compares his marks, his performance with someone else. He often feels that he has failed, not literally, but failed in front of that other who he is compared to. First all of us have to understand, we are all unique beings, we grew up with different parents and different conditions, then how can you compare yourself to someone? Just believe that you have to perform better-Better than last time. Your goal shouldn’t be to beat someone with your score, but to improve your past performance. That will push you forward.
If you failed to score or understand something, instead of being sad you must first ask yourself the question-WHY? Why did this result come out? Why can’t I understand? You would like to list out those reasons on a piece of paper. A lot of those reasons would be such that you could make better and the others would be inevitable, unchangeable, we must totally ignore them and think about improving the improvable, like distractions, friends, too much sleep. Think over them, work them out and that will surely make you perform better.
Failures not only in academics, but also in life must be taken positively. We must join Ralf Waldo Emerson when he said, “Life is a series of experiments, the more you make the better. Each failure is a trial in an experiment and an opportunity for growth. Even if a failure costs you financially, the educational benefits can far outweigh the loss.”
Also next time whenever you score less on a test or two or are unsuccessful in doing something even after multiple times then consider the following…
Michael Jordan was cut from the school basketball team; Steve Jobs was fired from his own company; Warren Buffet was rejected by Harvard University, Richard Branson is a high school dropout, Abraham Lincoln lost eight elections and Thomas Edison, failed more than 900 times when trying to create the light bulb. Failure did not keep these great people away from achieving their goals and becoming extra-ordinarily successful so it should not stop you even!
One should never give up no matter how hard your tests or your life may seem to be, because what’s the loss in trying again? We might have a trifle more chance of succeeding this time than the nil chance of success by quitting. We must remember the striking but true fact of life that “This too shall pass.” So don’t let fear of failure hold you back from reaching out for your goals. The key to success is not avoiding failure, but to overcome the fear of failure; learn from your failures and use them to build yourself up.
Failure should be our teacher and not our undertaker. If you have never failed you haven’t tried anything new.
PS:This post has been written by Shivam Patel and typed by Rushvi Patel. We thank them for their contribution to this series.